Navigational Tools: The P's
Posted by Margarita Navarrete-Hutchinson on Friday, August 23, 2019
In 2019, I have been practicing shifting my language.
Language is programming. How we talk to ourselves, is us talking to our nervous systems.
"Positive/negative" are words that I attempt to use primarily to describe polarity--but not persons, places or things...anymore, anyhow! (It's a programming practice).
A different perspective has been serving me well, thus far:
1. Is it practical?
2. Is it preferable?
3. Is it pleasant?
...to me? (Because everyone is different, so these answers vary as much as people do.)
At least 2/3 must be satisfied.
If it is truly practical, then there will likely be no harm done, to myself or others; as self-harm and harming others is not practical...and IT CAN BE PUT INTO PRACTICE, which means that it is do-able.
Sometimes, the preferable and pleasant overtake the practical; and that's okay, too--in moderation.
If it can be all 3, then absolutely, YES!!!
If 2/3, definitely MAYBE.
If less than, then NO.
If not at all, then definitely NO--change directions, express boundaries, remove yourself, seek other options...
As grown-ups, most of us are free to do that; we maybe could not, when we were children...quite likely, we had to bend the conditions we in, or break.
It sure is nice to be a grown-up!
Yes, there may be more responsibilities--but I may thankfully choose them; or respectfully decline them.
Choice.
We are not always able to enact it, but the more we do, the easier it gets.
Language is programming. How we talk to ourselves, is us talking to our nervous systems.
"Positive/negative" are words that I attempt to use primarily to describe polarity--but not persons, places or things...anymore, anyhow! (It's a programming practice).
A different perspective has been serving me well, thus far:
1. Is it practical?
2. Is it preferable?
3. Is it pleasant?
...to me? (Because everyone is different, so these answers vary as much as people do.)
At least 2/3 must be satisfied.
If it is truly practical, then there will likely be no harm done, to myself or others; as self-harm and harming others is not practical...and IT CAN BE PUT INTO PRACTICE, which means that it is do-able.
Sometimes, the preferable and pleasant overtake the practical; and that's okay, too--in moderation.
If it can be all 3, then absolutely, YES!!!
If 2/3, definitely MAYBE.
If less than, then NO.
If not at all, then definitely NO--change directions, express boundaries, remove yourself, seek other options...
As grown-ups, most of us are free to do that; we maybe could not, when we were children...quite likely, we had to bend the conditions we in, or break.
It sure is nice to be a grown-up!
Yes, there may be more responsibilities--but I may thankfully choose them; or respectfully decline them.
Choice.
We are not always able to enact it, but the more we do, the easier it gets.
Sharing tools that assist us, as we figure out the "Humanning," help us on the journey of life, together.
If my insights may be of service to others, I am grateful for the opportunity to share.
May they serve you well.
