The Importance of "Choice"

June 16, 2018
Our experiences on this planet are very much affected by whether or not we feel we have a choice.

There are humans who think this experience has no reason; there are some who think this planet is a form of purgatory, or a prison planet; some people think it's a testing ground of our virtue, that determines where we go in the after-life....there are likely as many iterations of "why" as there are individuals, even when the perspectives are shared.

I spent more than a few years wondering why I was here; feeling out of time and out of place...potentially on the wrong planet...and with time, stumbled into my self-acceptance.

Tumbling and falling through life; not quite failing, because each flail gained me new knowledge to build upon...until flailing became flapping and then I was flying.

The flailing turned to flapping when I decided that (regardless of any origin story) I chose to be here.  Not simply WANTED to be here, but CHOSE to be here. And not just CHOSE, but VOLUNTEERED.

I chose to perceive that the consciousness that resides inside this vessel called Margarita volunteered to experience & gather data via a human form. As to other choices (parents, country of birth, religion), it's not so important; it is more so important to choose to perceive that I chose to experience life here, on Earth, in the USA, to immigrant parents, voluntarily.

It's perception that liberates me to choose to interpret the Earth as a place where we come to be of service to each other, voluntarily. 

So I thought to myself, how do I want to volunteer at life?

I already had some ideas, based on the boundaries I established for myself during my past years of volunteerism in my chosen areas of service.

While volunteering, I acknowledged that for it to not feel like an obligation, it had to be fun **for me**. That isn't to say that it's not work--I'm an individual who prefers productive play over what I might sometimes consider "frivolous" play. Because I enjoy myself so much when I'm doing it, it doesn't feel like work--so it's a pleasure to provide.

If I'm going to provide my voluntary service with longevity, then I need to be doing something that I look forward to; that is a treat to participate in, for me.

Then, it's a gift that I derive so much from, through giving it.

I decided to apply those guidelines to my life--my daily experience.

How do I want to volunteer at life?  

For me, it's sharing self-care, via Hoopment.

It brings me so much delight to pass on an inexpensive tool to another person, that may help them increase their sense of well-being, through mindless play. 

I've chosen to accept that what I am here to do, what I am volunteering to do, is to play.

I am volunteering to be playful as much as I can, so that I may remind others to be playful as well--so together we may co-create a playground that we can all share, where there is enough space for everyone to explore their spheres, without encroaching on anyone else's sphere.

Since then, I've really enjoyed myself. More so than I ever have--because I have chosen to perceive that everything I do is my choice. Starting with being here.

If I didn't want to be here anymore, I could choose to take myself out; I am here on this planet, in this body, voluntarily.  It's not a trap. It's not a cage. It's a choice. 

I want to be here; because I like helping people.

But I don't like codependency; I prefer interdependent support.

By providing tools that help people help themselves, I get the satisfaction of helping others, without "having to do it for them," which can sometimes become the codependency trap of care providers.

By making the sharing of self-care an integral part of my life, I support my own self-care.

The better care I provide the vessel that my consciousness resides in, the more enjoyable my experience becomes, within this form.

It's my choice. I want to take care of myself. 

It's nice when self-care becomes effortless, because it has become fun. 

How do you want to volunteer in your life?


Clients & MT's: Seek Compatibility

March 16, 2018
Throughout the last 15 years that I have provided massage therapy, my working style has evolved. I would be a very bored therapist if I hadn't...I likely wouldn't be in this line of work anymore!

In the earlier years, I tried my best to provide each client with the session that they expressed wanting--which early on, was intensely deep tissue, primarily on the back, because that's where they felt discomfort, and that's what they wanted.
After a couple years of that, I recognized that my clien...
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Holding Space: Pressure Rainbow Style

March 11, 2018
Since recognizing the Pressure Rainbow as a valuable tool for better understanding one's self and nervous system, I have been practicing "holding space" in the Blue, Blue-Green, and Green zones.

"Holding space" basically refers to being present, usually with/for other people. 

After acknowledging the Pressure Rainbow, I started recognizing when I was in a certain color zone, as well as when other people were, as well.

Over a lifetime, I've recognized that, thanks to (unconscious) social mirrorin...
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Silence is Golden

February 10, 2018

It's something that, honestly, took me a few years to learn.

As a massage therapist, I acknowledge that the time on the table is the client's time; and not mine. 

As a human being... 

I tend to be fairly open already, even more so when vulnerable. It was easier to express thoughts/feelings to individuals who weren't as close to me as my primary nurturers, especially when the vulnerability was in regard to a primary nurturer. I avoided conflict with my primary nurturers; which filled me with much...
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Addressing the Neurological Component

February 3, 2018

Let's perceive the nervous system as the central communications system of our vessels. 

Our nervous systems interpret data that get picked up by our nerves through various senses, many of them pressure related. 

Our bodies/vessels may be perceived as pressure gauges that help us to navigate through space. What we interpret as emotions, are part of our navigational systems. 

As our excitement increases, so do our heart & breath rates. The excitement could be due to either "positive" or "negative"...
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Mini Hoops: Training Wheels for Ergonomic Movement

January 25, 2018
"The Hoopment" was born before it had a name...I was giving away mini-hoops for months before deciding that I needed to name the action of engaging with the hoops, to distinguish it from "hooping."

When we're 'hooping' our main objective is to keep the hoop moving around our bodies.  With 'Hoopment' our objective is to move our bodies around the hoops, by letting ourselves be guided by the hoops.

I injured my shoulder around the end of May in 2016, and it progressively worsened over the weeks. ...
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Perceiving Our Bodies as Spaceships

January 22, 2018
I self-published Your Body is a Spaceship, in 2014, which applies the Pressure Rainbow to emotional states, in addition to being a way of communicating physically perceived pressure. 

The analogy puts the conscious mind as the "navigator" and our bodies, being the vessels we inhabit, our "spaceships."

There is a finite amount of energy available to each vessel.

When a vessel is navigating through "safe" space, it's protective systems are not engaged--thus more resources are available to the immu...
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Sharing is Caring!

Margarita Navarrete-Hutchinson Sharing tools that assist us as we figure out the "humanning" help us on the journey of life, together. If my insights may be of service to others, I am grateful for the opportunity to share. May they serve you well.
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