Choosing the Optimistic Perspective

January 13, 2020
Today I had a conversation with a friend about the semantics of "optimism."

She took it to mean "positive to the extreme," which in my opinion would be more akin to "blind optimism"--believing that everything is going to work out because it "always does" due to some sort of magical belief. 

The opposite would be "blind pessimism"--like the belief that one is "cursed," and thus "doomed to suffer."

My perspective of optimism, is that one accepts that life has challenges, and that it's not always easy; but the skills are had to endure and the ability to learn/adapt is present, so one may even thrive through the discomforts. 

She perceived that as "realism."

I opined that "realism" is the simplicity of what is. Things are happening. That is reality. There is no opinion about it--it's a neutral approach...

When we are optimistic about what is happening, then we feel like regardless of the reality, we will find a way through it, despite the discomforts involved--we don't have to to enjoy it--but we believe that we can survive it fairly unscathed. We recognize that grief will likely be a part of the ride, along with joy and appreciation.

A pessimist assumes that failure is guaranteed, and the only success will be that one will succeed in suffering. '

It's my opinion that when we have an optimistic perspective, we are likely to feel less tension, and may be more able to see the opportunities present to us, and feel more capable of engaging with whatever we may have to, along the way. It may be challenging, but it may also feel more pleasant because we are choosing to engage it with optimism.

A pessimistic perspective may increase the neurological tension we feel in our bodies, and in the process, potentially trigger discomfort, which may in turn continue feeding the pessimism...and one may feel weighed down with incapability.

Grounded optimism is a tool. 

It's one that requires practice to work with. 

Give it a go if you haven't yet; it's worth the effort, in my opinion. 

Cheers to reducing our neurological tension, through conscious applications!


 

Navigational Tools: The P's

August 23, 2019
In 2019, I have been practicing shifting my language.

Language is programming. How we talk to ourselves, is us talking to our nervous systems.

"Positive/negative" are words that I attempt to use primarily to describe polarity--but not persons, places or things...anymore, anyhow! (It's a programming practice).

A different perspective has been serving me well, thus far:

1. Is it practical?
2. Is it preferable?
3. Is it pleasant?

...to me? (Because everyone is different, so these answers vary as much a...
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The Practice of "Being Okay With"

December 10, 2018




"How do you feel today?"


"Okay."

"Just okay? What's wrong?"

Nothing at all, really...I'm okay with the world and it's foibles.

To our nervous systems, being "okay" is a sustainable place to be; "okay" equates with "safe," which means we have more resources available for self-repair and restoration.

When we are "just okay," we aren't overly excited, which (while being a fun ride and an enjoyable experience) may reduce the energetic resources that are available to our self-repair/immune systems.

When...
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Practicing a Neutral Posture

August 11, 2018




When it comes to our Hoopment practice, the Neutral Posture is as important as allowing the hoops to guide our movements.

A Neutral Posture provides a stable base, that allows for motion/sway, while supporting our spines/centers/cores.

As we practice Level 1, Finding Our Centers, we are not only discovering how the hoops prefer to move, we are also practicing maintaining our Neutral Postures throughout all of our movements--despite changes in elevation or foot position.

While grazing the hoops d...
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Acknowledging Our Human Tendencies

July 15, 2018
When it comes to reducing pressure on our nervous systems/vessels, WE are most instrumental.

Each individual has a basic reaction to ALL the things being taken in by our senses, whether biologically/socially programmed, or chosen.

The basic reaction is colored by the filters through which we perceive the data that our nervous systems are interpreting. 

Frustration is a human emotion that many of us (if not all of us -Allovus-) can admit to experiencing...sometimes daily...multiple times a day. 

T...
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The Importance of "Choice"

June 16, 2018
Our experiences on this planet are very much affected by whether or not we feel we have a choice.

There are humans who think this experience has no reason; there are some who think this planet is a form of purgatory, or a prison planet; some people think it's a testing ground of our virtue, that determines where we go in the after-life....there are likely as many iterations of "why" as there are individuals, even when the perspectives are shared.

I spent more than a few years wondering why I wa...
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Clients & MT's: Seek Compatibility

March 16, 2018
Throughout the last 15 years that I have provided massage therapy, my working style has evolved. I would be a very bored therapist if I hadn't...I likely wouldn't be in this line of work anymore!

In the earlier years, I tried my best to provide each client with the session that they expressed wanting--which early on, was intensely deep tissue, primarily on the back, because that's where they felt discomfort, and that's what they wanted.
  
After a couple years of that, I recognized that my clien...
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Holding Space: Pressure Rainbow Style

March 11, 2018
Since recognizing the Pressure Rainbow as a valuable tool for better understanding one's self and nervous system, I have been practicing "holding space" in the Blue, Blue-Green, and Green zones.

"Holding space" basically refers to being present, usually with/for other people. 

After acknowledging the Pressure Rainbow, I started recognizing when I was in a certain color zone, as well as when other people were, as well.

Over a lifetime, I've recognized that, thanks to (unconscious) social mirrorin...
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Silence is Golden

February 10, 2018

It's something that, honestly, took me a few years to learn.

As a massage therapist, I acknowledge that the time on the table is the client's time; and not mine. 

As a human being... 

I tend to be fairly open already, even more so when vulnerable. It was easier to express thoughts/feelings to individuals who weren't as close to me as my primary nurturers, especially when the vulnerability was in regard to a primary nurturer. I avoided conflict with my primary nurturers; which filled me with much...
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Addressing the Neurological Component

February 3, 2018

Let's perceive the nervous system as the central communications system of our vessels. 

Our nervous systems interpret data that get picked up by our nerves through various senses, many of them pressure related. 

Our bodies/vessels may be perceived as pressure gauges that help us to navigate through space. What we interpret as emotions, are part of our navigational systems. 

As our excitement increases, so do our heart & breath rates. The excitement could be due to either "positive" or "negative"...
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Margarita Navarrete-Hutchinson Sharing tools that assist us as we figure out the "humanning" help us on the journey of life, together. If my insights may be of service to others, I am grateful for the opportunity to share. May they serve you well.
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